I was so very tempted to title this post “when will I ever learn?” because this Halloween was just completely all over the place for us and I felt like I was stumbling through it. In many ways, it felt too chaotic despite the best of intentions. I had to remind myself that we’re in transition. Next year we’ll be in our permanent house with the decorations the kids love and the Halloween books they’ve come to adore. And, an inspiring thought this morning truly set me straight. Halloween is about being a kid. Its not about living up to the parents’ ideals. Dressing up and wandering the streets at night can be enough. Eating food that you’re not “supposed” to eat is fabulous. Its once a year and its fun! Us parents these days (ahem, more specifically I’d dare say its us mamas) tend to over-think holidays way too much. I’m all for “intentional living” (a new-ish parenting buzz word for those of you without kiddos), but we seriously need to lighten up sometimes!
After several years of campaigning for Star Wars costumes, the boys got their wish this year. Not wanting to spend so much dinero on costumes that will not actually last through a year of pretend play (which all of the Sprouts still adore!), we found costumes at Target. Darth Vadar and the Bounty Hunter were ecstatic. So was Rapunzel. And then, to top it off (and this is when I wished I’d had that parenting how-to manual that really was supposed to come with each Sprout, right?) they totally scored and got second costumes this week! All because I’d found out about a sweet “harvest festival” at a local Waldorf preschool. It was a community fundraiser and supposedly very wholesome, family oriented, and anti-consumerist. The only catch? No violent costumes. We were teetering on the fence, I tell you. So, I ended up whipping up very easy Robin Hood and Little John costumes (minus the bows and arrows!) at the last minute. Thankfully I had my sewing machine (I didn’t trust the movers to pack it). Maid Marian’s outfit was a hybrid of a store bought princess costume and homemade head piece and scarf. And guess what? The kids loved them! They were beyond thrilled to have costumes that I made for them. For some reason, that was extremely meaningful to them. Later, I was kicking myself, thinking “why didn’t I just do this in the first place?” It would’ve been much more economical and yet still retain the “fun factor”. Sigh. Eight years into this parenting gig and I still ask myself, “when will I ever learn?”. I guess the important thing is that they had a blast at the harvest festival and on Halloween night. And special surprise packages from loved ones afar added to the magic of it all.
I hope that you all had a happy haunting as well!